The Moth

I didn’t know what it was at first, almost like a rattle. I drifted back to sleep, that prayerful kind of sleep that you have on lazy mornings where no alarm is set but the sun through the curtainless blinds. Then the sound again, slightly more alert I realize it’s fluttering. Back to sleep. Now it’s near my face and my eyes crack open to see a moth darting across the room clearly out of place. I watch it for a while thinking about how I feel like that sometimes, like I belong in another world as I struggle against my confinements. My mind wrestles that topic. Again sounds of rattling, and I turn from those thoughts and watch as the moth thrashes about the venetian blinds throwing itself over again into the obstacle standing between itself and what it’s drawn to. Getting nowhere, it stops and (for all I know about moths) ‘sees’ that if it heads to the edge of the blinds it can get closer to its apparent goal. Once the moth is at last behind the blinds up against the glass it returns to its flight frenzy… cacophonous little fellow.

I think to a friend of mine, drawn to entrapments bathed in light. I’m not so unlike him. Seeking whatever it is we seek only to be scorched by the heat that saps our energy and causes us to forget the exit from which we entered. Or maybe it’s pride. Or both. Either way, same effect, the moth slowed down. I laid in bed knowing the moth would probably die in that window. If my husband was here I could say, ‘honey go get that moth’ and he’d take hold of it in his hand and might take it outside. I could be willing to get out of bed and open the blinds, offering a limited kind of freedom. But instead I decided to read a book and let time have its way with the moth. An hour later I hear a tingy flutter, not fast and furious like this morning, but slowed and clumsy. The moth emerges between slits in the venetian blinds and falls to the window ledge and then to the floor. The ‘experiment’ is done. No intervention necessary. The moth got out on its own. Of course, an hour later the moth was dead.

And this is the crux of my questions. Not what can we do as really the possibilities are endless. But what should we do if we’re not ourselves stuck against the deadly temptations of a hot window pane and blinds that somehow seemed like the most desirable thing at the time? What do I do for my friends, the people God’s grafted into my life, when they stop caring about me or themselves and pursue what ultimately will become their destruction? How many times do I forgive?, because to me right now, seven sounds like a lot of grace. And what does forgiveness mean; does it require repetitive action, even rescue? What about the unforgettable answer Jesus painted with His blood? I’m no savior, not even if I wanted to be, so how far does this action on His part translate into my life with others? What does it mean to love even with the near certainty that the loved one rescued will continue to abandon safety and pursue the flame? That’s what really kept me in bed this morning, not apathy. Personal pain and encompassing sorrow are my heartaches as I watched the morning moth struggle and die. I don’t want this for anyone, especially not those I care about, but I don’t know what to do.